i haven't posted in a long time... so here's the update: Bob retired and so did I. Been caring for My Mom and Bob's aunt. having an estate sale for his aunt in July....so sorting thru 60+ years of belongings My dearest mother has had health issues and we've had to move her to a care facility. I also sorted thru her things...which were for the most part condensed into one room. and in the midst of this i have injured my back, badly. some days i cannot walk without pain. My life is altered suddenly, things i took for granted, yes even things i destested, are what i crave! I found myself praying that if i could just clean, cook, vacum, do laundry and garden...then i would be content. lol